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How to Go From Victim to Victor
It seems that most of us have people who mess with us from time to time. Sometimes, it’s intentional and sometimes, it isn’t. You may be wondering why these people are trying to mess with you in the whole first place. There can be a variety of reasons. It could be that they feel insecure and insulting you enables them to feel better about themselves. Perhaps it’s that they are jealous and your successes trigger them. Sometimes it could have to do with control, and their desire to manipulate you or shape the narrative. Maybe it’s a simple case of projection where they are trying to cast their own failures upon you. Finally, it could have to do with social pressure or peer influence where they are trying to look good in front of others at your expense. Whatever the case, it’s never fun.
As such, you’ll want to do your best to place yourself in the driver’s seat and put an end to this type of behavior, transforming yourself from victim to victor. Here are some ways that you can make it happen:
- Alter your mental and emotional state. Stay calm and composed. People are often acting in this way to provoke a reaction from you. Avoid giving them one.
- Don’t take it to heart. They are someone else’s words so never internalize them. They don’t know you, your heart, or your intentions.
- Remain confident. Your aggressor is…
