We’ve all been there before. The unexpected hiccup. The last minute no or cancellation. It happens with our businesses and it happens in our personal lives. It stings and doesn’t seem fair, but it is what it is (we can’t change it). Don’t worry- it’s okay (and perfectly normal) to feel sad, just don’t get stuck in that disappointment. We have to do whatever we can to keep trucking along by using our own personal coping strategies to turn those negative thoughts around. Here are a few of my favorite methods for doing so:
- Improve Your Problem-Solving Skills. Sometimes we take things too personally because we are too close to what’s happening. Try to look at the situation objectively and from the other party’s point of view. Take a step back, analyze it, and ask for feedback if you need clarification (instead of guessing about what happened). You may be surprised at what you’ll uncover and can use that information to reformulate, readjust and improve. Failure enables us to learn and grow. Without it, we would never progress.
- Become More Patient. There is no quick path to anything worth having. Ask any successful person and they’ll tell you the same thing. There is a lot of heartache on the road to triumph. You will experience plenty of setbacks and rejections before you ultimately succeed. When these hindrances appear (and they will), try to call upon your patience. Obstacles are part of the journey leading you to where you are meant to be.
- Reframe Your View. We can’t control what happens to us (in many cases), but we can control how we react. Look for ways to put an optimistic spin on all of your setbacks. Maybe something even more amazing is now possible in your future because of that glitch. Let your mind wander and determine what it might be. You can start journaling to chronicle your thoughts and speculate about all of the great things that could happen next. The more you focus on the positive, the more you will start to see it, so grab that journal and start writing!
- Get Unstuck. Do what you can to improve your mindset and get out of your funk. Go for a walk, get out in nature, spend time with your family, call a friend or hit the treadmill. Whatever improves your attitude and enables you to come back to the situation with a positive outlook. Who doesn’t feel immediately better by taking a walk along the beach or watching a brilliant sunset? Maybe it’s running or kayaking that makes you feel better. Find your go-to coping strategies and use them whenever you need a mood boost.
Failure is inevitable in business and life. But, if you adjust the way that you think, you’ll see that these setbacks are a gift that can lead you down a path to something better. If you’re looking for more tips on building resilience and improving your mindset, check out my new book, Launch Your Inner Entrepreneur.